U on right server? I switched to Zek just to pass the time and when I logged back in later I was seeing my Zek char selection screen which threw me for a loop for a sec.
Maybe your wife deleted it.
Saw someone complaining about the same issue on Drinal late last night if that wasn't you.
So after chatting with dev, looks like the character got corrupted somehow with the crash I believe I can get it back, but it's going to be back about an hour before you crashed.